today i revisited proverbs 31:10-31. for most christian women, this is the type of woman we strive to be. i definitely think it is a good guideline to follow-- to be a woman for fears, loves and serves God.
i believe because of our culture most women stray away from being this type of woman. i think after being bombarded by movies and television about affairs, revenge, hatred, deceit, and promiscuity women begin to pick up those traits. isn't it easy to do? you see a girl get the super cute guy by luring him in despite the fact that he is with another girl. at the end of the day she gets what she wants. and that is what we want right? to have our way? a woman's ways can be deceitful and cunning with friendships, at work, in our relationships. we manipulate those around us to get our way. like the girl in the movie trying to win over a guy that is in a relationship... she can seem innocent--posing as a "friend"-- slowly reeling him in... and BAM, she has him right where she wants him.
have you ever seen "the last kiss"? the girl in the movie started out having an "innocent" conversation with michael. he probably didn't think much of it... just a friendly girl. but later he becomes more vulnerable and the girl has her opportunity. nevermind he is with someone else, she wanted him and she got him... if only for a short time. she still destroyed their relationship. trust was broken.
we each have a role in relationships, whether friends, girlfriend, or wife. we need to help guard our hearts and help the men guard their hearts and eyes. especially their eyes. we need to be aware of our clothing choices and our behavior. men are visual creatures and we NEED to respect that. as godly women we should be aware of satan's games. be aware of the boundaries of other people's relationships if you are single and if you are married. once you cross that boundary it is hard to get back over... it is hard to repair the damage made. there comes a point when it is no longer acceptable for a single woman to have private conversations with a married man. as well as a married woman to talk to single men. you have to be conscience of how this will affect your heart, the other person's heart, and their spouse if they are married. what are your intentions if you speak to a married person without their spouse's knowledge? we all know that is not healthy. you are not guarding your heart, theirs or the spouse's. if you were the unaware spouse you would feel betrayed and threatened. it is selfish to not consider these things.
"above all else, guard your heart, for it is the wellspring of life. put away perversity from your mouth; keep corrupt talk far from your lips. let your eyes look straight ahead, fix your eyes directly before you. make level paths for your feet and take only ways that are firm. do not serve to the right or to the left; keep your foot from evil."... "charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the LORD is to be praised"
*edit* and for those of you that may think i'm just picking on the girls, i'm not. once i feel compelled there will probably be one about the men too. fact is we all fall short and we should strive to be much more than we are. my goal in writing this is to show what i see happening in attempts to spread the Truth about how God calls us to be.*
